The grief that comes with any emotional loss can be overwhelming and also very isolating. Often people find that those they normally count on for emotional support are at a total loss when it comes to offering effective and meaningful assistance. They will often give you logical reasons why you should not feel bad, but that rarely helps. Grief is emotional and not logical! The fact that you are seeking help in dealing with that emotional pain is not a sign of weakness, but rather a recognition on your part that you are interested in taking recovery action! - Grief Recovery Institute
When someone has a broken heart,
it doesn't mean that they are broken; therefore they don't need to be "fixed".
They don't need to be analyzed, evaluated or judged.
They just need to be listened to with dignity and respect.
"I took the grief recovery program this summer...
...and had weekly one to one sessions with Robin. I was struggling and in a lot of pain after a year of several major losses. Not only is Robin an expert facilitator and guide, her loving, safe presence made it possible for me to do deep healing work during an especially tough and vulnerable time."
- Online participant in Chicago, IL
In 2015, I walked into my training to become a GRM specialist eagerly anticipating learning about some tools to support my clients to heal from the pain of life's deepest heartaches. As part of the program, I was required to do my own inner work first before receiving my certification. I was paired up with a lovely woman, who happened to be a Licensed Professional Counselor. She was also getting trained to become a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist. As we took turns being "hearts with ears" for one another without interruption, and without any analysis, criticism, comparison or judgment, for the very first time in my life, I felt entirely free to share the truth of my past losses, hurts, wounds and disappointments, unfiltered and unedited in that safe environment. I discovered how many unprocessed feelings and how much unresolved grief (a.k.a emotional baggage), I had been carrying around in my life - for years!
Before that, I had been so afraid to even look at those wounded places in my heart, so I stuffed and buried the pain of my losses, staying busy with my career and focusing on caring for others to distract myself from the pain and shame that weighed heavily on my heart.
Initially, I had a lot of resistance towards taking the action steps of the Grief Recovery Method program, yet, as I took them, something within me started to shift; something within me started to heal in a profound way.
Experiencing my own emotional healing and more lightness and freedom than I could have ever imagined, I became passionate about teaching others how to use these same healing tools.
I have been facilitating educational grief recovery programs since 2015 and in 2018 I received additional training to become an Advanced GRM Specialist which allows me to offer GRM programs online and to work with clients throughout the USA and internationally too!
"Following the death of my partner, I didn't think there would ever be a way for me to address my pain.
...I thought that if I acknowledged what had hurt me, that I would be admitting to being permanently broken. I didn't feel like it was safe to admit that I was grieving, let alone accept it. From the very beginning of the program, I felt safe with Robin. With her guidance and unconditional support throughout the seven-week program, I was able to heal even more than the bereavement I had initially come to grief recovery for."
- Eve, Keller, Texas
"I was not able to express the pain of losing my mother...
...I hid all the emotions inside of me to minimize the pain and grief. I constantly had dreams of her during the night until I started the program with Robin. I was encouraged to share my feelings. Robin was a "heart with ears" which helped me talk and face my emotional struggles honestly and comfortably. After opening myself and honestly sharing my feelings, I no longer feel emotionally stuck. And now I have less of those repeated dreams at night. More importantly, I learned a series of tools to handle conflicting emotions. I don't panic anymore when I am missing my mom or being faced with other losses. I also realized how important it is to correctly respond to losses. The tools I learned in the program are indeed useful!"
- Online participant in Nashville, Tennessee
"I spent years in therapy - psychologists, counselors, psychiatrists...
...yet accomplished more with Robin in seven meetings than all the others combined. She is professional, kind, lovely in every way but to me her essence is as a friend who walks alongside, leading one to peace and safety."
"I think it's really powerful to have a specialist...
...who has gone through the course and the grief recovery process herself. I don't think that had I just read the book on my own, that I would have been able to first of all push myself through doing all of the assignments and completing things. The grief recovery program sets you up for success. I feel more forgiving of myself for things I just didn't know."
- Sandra, Keller, Texas
"I'm so happy that I had a chance to get to know about this program and go through it. I had no idea that such a program even existed. Having the tools is such a big thing for me. Having a method and the tools to work through things from my past and to know how to deal with things in my future is huge for me. Being able to help my kids learn to deal with loss appropriately is huge for me. And I wish everyone could go through something like this! I felt that our grief recovery specialist, Robin, was so good at leading the program. She came across so understanding and non-judgmental, not trying to analyze everything people shared, in fact, not analyzing at all. I felt like I was getting a big, warm hug when she listened to me."
- Carol, Roanoke, Texas
"Robin is welcoming, warm and compassionate.
...She is genuine and open. Leading without judgment, analysis or criticism, she has gently encouraged me onward towards my goal of becoming free from my past. With my own eyes, I'm beginning to see my heart open, in some ways, for the first time. With Robin, I am learning how to use specific tools to process through wounds & be free. And, I will carry these tools with me for the rest of my life because they really do work!"
- Cheryl, Fort Worth, Texas
"...With this work I could feel like a brand new person...
...not one that hides or cowers or fears her past... but one that is willing to take an honest look at the past in order to stand more firmly in the present. I have never felt more open; more alive. Robin gave me so much support and she accepted me completely without judgment or question. She encouraged me to accept myself and accept my feelings with total honesty and clarity. I am grateful for this work. I am so grateful for Robin."
- Online participant in Brooklyn, New York
"I took this opportunity to work on those spots that were not touched before,
...because when you suffer a loss of a dear family member, a lot of cultural behaviours do not help you to face reality. It was a hard work, but Robin Suttin accompanied me with professionalism and compassion. I feel much better now, and I am looking forward to go on living my life with joy. I want to thank Robin and the whole Grief Recovery team! It was outstanding and 5 stars is my rating!"
- Edith, Lugano, Switzerland
"My healing required that I sit with my feelings...
...as opposed to running away from them. Robin created a space where I could feel safe and supported to heal, and heal I did. While I enjoyed the process, I was skeptical about it actually working. Robin kept me on track, and sure enough, by the final session, I was different. I feel safer and more present in my life and practice. I feel grounded and complete and for this I am eternally grateful."
- Eve, Keller, Texas
"I lost my fur baby of 18 years and had nowhere to turn...
...I've lost loved ones before but had never experienced this type of grief and really didn't know what to do. NO ONE understood my pain and NO ONE could offer the support I truly needed. After searching online and attending a pet loss support group, I found Robin and the Grief Recovery Method. What a blessing to be able to express my deepest feelings and sorrow to someone who truly understands the process of grieving and how unique it is to the individual and the loss that is experienced during that time. After peeling away at the layers of some very deeply rooted pain in my life, I uncovered much deeper pain that still needed to be dealt with. I'm so very thankful for Robin's professionalism and empathy toward my situation and I cannot say "Thank you" enough for her willingness to help me during such a difficult time. I would highly recommend trying this methodology of grief processing and healing to anyone, no matter your circumstances."
- Veronica, DFW area
"I am beyond grateful for this experience...
...because I feel that aside from helping me now be freed from the past and misconceptions, unforgiven situations related to my ex partner and chains of resentment that had me bound, I can look forward to a brighter future, especially for the sake of our beautiful children. I am confident now, which is a real gift, that if something comes up, I will have these tools to use and deal with it."
- Online participant in Mexico
"This program was very well-structured and helped me move purposefully...
...through the process to a place of completion. I would have gotten stuck at a couple of points trying to work through the material on my own. It turned out to be critically important to be working with a facilitator. The process is hard work but also fruitful. I do think I'm in a different place emotionally and relationally, and I can see how the ideas will continue to benefit me and be applicable in the future."
- - Online participant in Dallas, Texas
"Robin is warm, caring and made me feel safe to open up even in the most tender spots...
..She gently "held my hand" through every step, explaining with love and humor, when that was appropriate. I came to the Grief Recovery Method not wanting to let go of the pain that I felt in the relationship with my mom. In the course of the following weeks I went from dreading the idea of having to open up about my feelings about my relationship with my mom, and the disappointment about our relationship, to having insights about myself, accepting our relationship as it is, forgiving what happened in the past and healing the pain I felt, to actually feeling excited about reconnecting with my mom from a different, healthier place. I have so much gratitude and respect for Robin and the work that she does and have already recommended her to multiple friends."
- Online participant in Spain
"When I finally decided to go through the grief recovery program, I was very skeptical.
...During the discovery part of the program, I realized that I needed to work through a relationship that had caused me a lot of pain throughout the past 13 years. As a result of going through the grief recovery program, I have become a more compassionate person towards myself and towards others. THANK YOU! This has forever changed my life!"